We moved city over 6 months ago which was in the best interests of her career as well as mine. You should certainly still date even if you are not looking for a marriage partner. And on my part, I felt I needed to go out and live harder, party more, be more social, etc. We have a happy marriage. Just going to jump in and then jump out I remember how idealistic I was back then, but here's reality: You will be without him most of the time. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases.
For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. The thing about General Authorities and General Conference, is that they give general counsel that is meant for the general population. My seminary teacher went off on me about dating a non Mormon when I was talking about going to his prom. But daughter and I agreed that this teaching was unhealthy.
I loved being single, and I love dating him now, but demanding rotations are giving me an idea of what his surgical residency will be like except that I know it will be x I have spent hours and hours and hours on blogs like these, trying to understand if it will be worth it-- worth the very real possibility of losing my identity, of boxing myself in career-wise, of never being in control of where I live, of a thousand lonely nights. The scenario where she refused to watch a possibly 'anti' documentary and wanted to watch church-sanctioned material sounds like a red flag. Their perspective gives you an idea of how important your role as wife and mother is to the success of the family of a doctor's wife. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. He loves me and would do anything to make me happy. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. Perhaps I will have to start one.
If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. Even more lonely for myself as I have no one to complain this situation to. If kids ever came into the picture though, I wouldn't want to be isolated from them psychologically or banned from walking my daughter down the aisle someday. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. I am fortunate to be married to a surgeon who, although he has "the ego," he maintains Christian values in our home. It would be foolish to acquiesce a Mormon girl to drink coffee. As Joanna said, marriage takes some work no matter what, but being married to your best friend, and listening to the spirit brings great blessings. We generally don't talk on the phone, but text a few times throughout the week. I think we need to steer far away from medicine…. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok.